Why do you keep repeating the same dynamics in relationships?

Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, describes how the patterns we learned in childhood to relate to our primary caregivers carry over, almost without modification, to adult romantic relationships. This relational dynamic operates below ordinary conscious awareness.

When you understand your attachment style, you begin to see that you are not simply attracting "the same person" or stumbling into the same conflict by chance. What keeps returning is not the person, but the underlying pattern.

The Four Attachment Styles

🛡️ Secure Style

Basic trust in the availability of the other. Comfortable asking for and offering support. Tolerates separation well.

❤️‍🩹 Anxious-Preoccupied

Fear of abandonment, hypersensitivity to rejection. Seeks extreme closeness and becomes highly activated at any sign of distance or emotional withdrawal.

🧊 Dismissive-Avoidant

Defensive hyper-independence. Discomfort with emotional intimacy. Downplays their own emotions and easily disconnects from the relationship.

🌪️ Disorganized / Fearful

Desires connection but fears it. A mix of contradictory behaviors. Usually linked to early relational trauma.

What does this test measure?

The test evaluates 30 relational situations to identify your predominant attachment style, how it manifests in different types of relationships, and the specific triggers that activate your defense mechanisms.

Who is it for?

For anyone who feels they are repeating relational patterns that are difficult to understand or change. It is especially useful if you experience recurring conflicts in your relationship, if you struggle with intimacy or separation, or if you want to understand why you always attract the same type of partner.

What will you get?

Your predominant attachment style and its nuances, how it is activated in different contexts, and the experiences that may help you develop a more secure attachment. In the PRO report, Block B is analysed alongside Nervous System Regulation (A) and Relationship Patterns (E) for a deeper understanding of how you form bonds.

What is your attachment pattern?

30 questions. 10 minutes. Free and immediate result.


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Frequently Asked Questions

What is attachment style?
A pattern developed in childhood to relate to caregivers, which we carry over into adult relationships. It describes how we seek proximity and how we respond to perceived insecurity.
How many attachment styles are there?
Four main pillars: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Disorganized/Fearful-Avoidant. Each one has very distinct behavioral patterns and emotional activation triggers.
Is attachment style permanent?
No. Through neuroplasticity, therapy, and somatic work, you can shift toward an "Earned Secure" attachment. Self-awareness is the first step.
How long does it take?
30 questions, taking approximately 10 minutes.
Do anxious and avoidant styles attract each other?
Yes, it is a very common dynamic (the anxious-avoidant trap). The anxious partner seeks closeness, while the avoidant one withdraws. This dance activates the fears of both, creating a cycle that is difficult to break without conscious awareness.
Is disorganized attachment a disorder?
No, it is not a clinical diagnosis, but a relational pattern that typically develops when the caregiver was also a source of fear. It highly benefits from trauma-informed support and integration.
Can I have more than one style?
Yes. Most people have a predominant style but may exhibit different patterns depending on the relationship context (e.g., romantic patterns, friends, family). The test identifies your dominant pattern and its nuances.

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